Carifuna / Caribbean / Sex & Sexuality

what turns you off?

myvoice — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 18:48:22 GMT

For me a man who smokes is the worst! That is such a turn off. No woman wants man who smells like cigarettes all the time. And chances are, if he smokes cigarettes, he smokes weed and drinks too, urghh. I can tolerate a litlle bit of weed from time to time but those cancer sticks are disgusting and I will not date a man that smokes.

Relationships are all about leverage not love

Aque — Wed, 18 Aug 2010 12:52:48 GMT

When it all started, women stayed at home and were the primary caregivers. That gave way for men, who had all the leverage to be abusive and do as they feel with no remorse or fear of retribution.
Fast forward to the late twentieth, early twenty first century and we have the age of the career woman. Though this phenomenon has taken away the ability of the man to consistently abuse his spouse without her having the option to leave, it has also given rise to another problem. Leverage has shifted, so to speak. Equally as bad is that now there is no room for error, forgiveness which was before the order of the day, every day is now extinct. The man is now walking on thorns, living in a glass house. It is understandable what the woman has been through and why one may lean towards this type of behavior but, aren't we going from one end of the spectrum to the next? Where is the middle ground?
At the end of it all, there stands "LEVERAGE." It is what makes or breaks the once unbreakable bond between a man and his wife.

Caribbean Man - Whey yo dey?

Yute — Wed, 05 May 2010 09:10:40 GMT

The mounting murder rates in the Caribbean, the increase of gangs and gang related activities, heightening drug use among men, the declining performance of male students in regional and internal examinations, the heightening absence of fathers in the homes, increasing enrolment rates at universities among females and the over-population of our prisons by men are mere symptoms that we are losing our Caribbean men.

While we celebrate and respect those men who have stepped up and taken their responsibilites seriously, too many of our Caribbean brothers are victims of the system. Mere statistic elimiated by a bullet, just another man liming on the block while another son, another daughter is raised without a father. Caribbean Man - whey yo dey? What strategies can we use to help our men break this vicious cycle?

HIV and teen pregnancy

Yute — Sat, 20 Mar 2010 01:48:38 GMT

The high incidence of teenage pregnancy across the Caribbean is of some concern. It is difficult to understand the irresponisible sexual practices of not only our teenagers but manys adults as well at a time when the threat of HIV and AIDs is so real. Government and other NGOs spend significant and scant resources on providing information yet pregnancies and new HIV infections continue to rage. What else can we do as a people to reach our youths? Is protective intercourse to difficult to practice?

Paternity test

BlessedOne — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 16:11:50 GMT

I was just listening to a radio show that posed the question, if you found out 5-10yrs down the line that the child you thought was yours; was infact not! What would you do?

Does a paternity test take away the love you have for the child? Would you continue to pay child support?

WOMEN....why would you keep this a secret?

Can a woman rape a man?

missy — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 19:13:26 GMT

Is there such a thing? Rape is sex without consent, indeed. But is there such a thing as Rape when a woman does it to a man.....a buck.....? Feedback, please.

Should the legal age of consent be changed from 15 to 18 in St. Vincent and the Grenadines?

Yute — Fri, 01 May 2009 22:31:22 GMT

In St. Vincent and the Grenadines persons are deemed to be adults at age 18 at which time they obtain the right to vote. However, under the constitution the legal age of consent is 15 years old. Thus, what currently obtains are predatory relationships where adult males prey on young girls who are just over 15 years and who are still in schools. Are 15 year olds (males and females) capable enough to handle the responsibilities that come with sexual involvement? Should the age of consent be moved to 18 or should it be retained in its old form?

SEXTRA: Does size really matter?

myvoice — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 17:24:39 GMT

Some women feel that regardless of the size of a man’s penis, if he’s not “working it right,” he’s useless. Then there’s those who love the man that is simply too big for his britches, literally! Due to the varying opinions, I would love to hear your thoughts on this matter! Ladies, take it away! Fellas, don’t be shy we want to hear what you think too!:D

Confessions!

myvoice — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 21:02:18 GMT

Naturally, no one is going to share their deepest darkest, but all in all they’re fairly exciting. And apparently, location is everything with those who shared. Ultimately, though, the admissions continue to prove natural sexual instincts and urges between two people. Sometimes you can’t resist and sometimes you have to. Don't be shy, enjoy and share your confessions. :w00t:

Who is really hurt when transgenders dress up?

what next — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 13:39:43 GMT

Guyanese cross dressers are suing their state to overturn a law which makes it illegal for a man to appear in public dressed as a female or for a female person to do the same. Transgenders of Trinidad and Tobago are eagerly monitoring this case as it may indicate that the Caribbean is finally ready to begin accepting transgenders. Ashily Dior, A Trinidadian transgendered person, asked the question-"Who is really hurt when transgenders dress up?" I think its a great question. Who is really hurt when a man dresses like a female? Why do we dislike it?

What keeps a couple together?

chatoyeh2 — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 13:10:09 GMT

What keeps 2 people in a relationship together? Is it sex, Emotional attachment, commitment, or trust? Most would say it’s a combination of all those factors. But which is most important to you and why? Maybe its none of previous, so please as you wish- shed some light!

Should Women Settle?

Chatoyeh — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 07:38:25 GMT

As minority women continue to be educated at the highest levels and build careers and businesses in every conceivable industry, the same isn’t true for minority men. The rate of school dropouts and incarceration among minority men has made the availability of “good” husbands and fathers almost nonexistent. In light of this, should women settle for less than their “ideal” man?

Older woman younger man, or vice versa

missy — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 08:08:12 GMT

Is there anything wrong with it? In the olden days it was a much older man with a young woman.....Now the tables have turned, and sisters are dating the younger dudes now........and having fun..(Amen...can I have a witness?)......But in the end can true love develop with a relationship of this type...Can it last? or it is just for fun (and/or money)? And how old is too old? Men would you date an older woman for love or money? Why? Come on brothers....let me hear you.....sisters too.

Homosexuality or Homophobia?

chatoyeh2 — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 06:15:42 GMT

Is homosexuality a problem in the Caribbean? Or is the real issue homophobia? Is the fight with the homosexual or is that Caribbean people need to adjust their fear and reaction to what is now acceptable in most other regions? Film maker Kareem Mortimer of the Bahamas addresses this issue in his film "[url]"Children of God"[/url]". Does the act of homosexuality Justify feelings of anger and the violence actions toward homosexual on a moral ground?

Sex and the Economy

BlessedOne — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 11:15:55 GMT

Do you think that there has been a "sexual recession" due to the shift in the economy? Think about it, men are unable to provide financially, arguments are more frequent than before and the pleasure or urge for sex has been non- existent. Is this actually possible? Please tell me your view

Also do you think partners(both men and women) need an escape, so now there is a rise in infedility?:hehe:

Wife #5. Guarantees no cheating!

montarok — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 09:31:46 GMT

I guess this is the way to guarantee that there's no cheating going on:P:hehe::hehe:;)

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Can he say no?!

chatoyeh2 — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 08:25:07 GMT

Is your man socialized to say no? Aren’t men doing exactly what they are socialized to do- Which is to pursue sex from as much women as possible, making him the ultimate stud? A trait respected in our society by both men and women. Can he resist the offer of a “fling” from a “beautiful” woman?

Decriminalizing of Homosexuality in the Caribbean

Yute — Thu, 07 May 2009 00:32:30 GMT

Homosexuality and its decriminalization in the Caribbean is one topic which many of us as Caribbean nationals tread lightly around. Very few of us can ignore the fact that many of our brothers exist on the Down Low, that is, living in seemingly heterosexual relationships while actively involved in the gay lifestyle underground. From a moral stand point and even in terms of understanding the anatomy of humans, one can clearly agree with the arguments put forward for supporting laws which criminalize acts of buggery and homosexuality on the whole.

However, there are some experts who argue that the continuing criminalization of homosexuality promotes risky behaviour which can and has increased the spread of HIV. Is this health factor enough to call for the legalization of homosexuality in the Caribbean or should we strengthern the call for the retention of anti-homosexual laws on our books? Should we continue to legislate on sexuality? Should our moral posture continue to be the base line on matters of homosexuality? What do you think?

SEX

myvoice — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 18:07:03 GMT

Thank you! yes please? its cold out side:P