InstantForum.NET v4.1.4Carifuna http://www.carifuna.com/forum/forums@carifuna.comFri, 10 Feb 2012 05:52:23 GMT20http://www.carifuna.com/forum/Topic143-38-1.aspxIt is amazing how we try to justify the womanising actions of our men. We blame his socialisation, the rough relationships he finds himself in, the pull of hot, attractive women among other factors. Are we to believe that men are mere puppets who simply dance to the tune of the drummer with absolutely no control over his sexuality and by extension his womanising? I hope not. If indeed, his actions are influenced only by factors that are external to him then we have omitted a vital factor him; man's ability to use his brain, man's abilty to rationalise and to make mature, responsible decisions. Or are we saying that men are incapable of using those? <P>What if we factor in another issue - women. Yes women, the mothers who condone their sons' womanising life, the sisters who encourage the men who are in committted relationships into their bed chambers, the daughters who are consciously aware of their cheating spouses but remain in the relationships anyway...Yes, women - man's greatest bain!</P><P>Am sure that the stats would show that "the been there and done that man" is still finding quite a lot that hasnt been done. Nothing like exploring unknown territory. Ask the early explorers!</P><P>Still interesting discussion... Hopefully, solutions can be be found to cure the...Sat, 02 Jan 2010 19:41:56 GMTYutehttp://www.carifuna.com/forum/Topic143-38-1.aspxI truly belief that a man can say no to attractive girls pursuing them even without attachments. What really comes into play are the situations that men are put in. Situations can vary between loneliness, rough spots in relationship, the need to be held and feeling wanted etc. If a man is happy in his relationship or if he is confident in who he is yes he can say no, But for many it is very hard and that's where being held accountable plays in. Because he now understands what that encounter can do to the relationship that he has built or he may even get some type of disease from this one encounter. Whatever the case is, he has to accept responsibility for the circumstances that has derived from his decision. <br><br>Every man knows cheating is a gamble...just don"t think they remember what it is that they are gambling for.<br><br>And Please I am talking about real men,not the idiots that are primarily driven by their d..ks and egos.I am referring to men that understands relationships and wants one, men who have been there done that.Thu, 31 Dec 2009 20:56:41 GMTBlessedOnehttp://www.carifuna.com/forum/Topic143-38-1.aspxA man can say no but it all depends on how the female look. how many man can say no to a hot female if she coming on to him. If you say no, you look soft in the female eyes so most men have to maintain than he is a man by not saying no.Thu, 31 Dec 2009 20:11:07 GMTslickhttp://www.carifuna.com/forum/Topic143-38-1.aspxI have mixed feelings about this topic. It is implied every day by us the society that the man has to take up the mantle of being the ultimate stud by being with many women. It is even taken to the extent where some men even father multiple children with different mothers. I admit it is deemed acceptable in some quarters, however, that is not an acceptable answer for me. A person has to be held accountable for his actions. So although I do admit the pressures of peers and society on a whole places the torch of womanizer in the palm of a man's hand and labels him "soft" if he doesn't oblige, ultimately if a man is a "man" then he has to do the responsible thing.<br>P.S. Please note that this response is exactly how I feel but does not exempt me from buckling under those same pressures in the future.Thu, 31 Dec 2009 12:55:04 GMTAquehttp://www.carifuna.com/forum/Topic143-38-1.aspxIs your man socialized to say no? Aren’t men doing exactly what they are socialized to do- Which is to pursue sex from as much women as possible, making him the ultimate stud? A trait respected in our society by both men and women. Can he resist the offer of a “fling” from a “beautiful” woman?Thu, 31 Dec 2009 08:25:07 GMTchatoyeh2