 Posted 1/12/2010 7:38:25 AM
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| As minority women continue to be educated at the highest levels and build careers and businesses in every conceivable industry, the same isn’t true for minority men. The rate of school dropouts and incarceration among minority men has made the availability of “good” husbands and fathers almost nonexistent. In light of this, should women settle for less than their “ideal” man?
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Posted 1/12/2010 1:26:21 PM
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| Should Women Settle- for less, No. We all have certain basic expectations and set certain standards as to the characteristics of our 'perfect mate'. However there is education and there is literacy. Literacy is very relevant and impacts greatly on behaviour. An educated male may possess very little or no fatherly quality. Playing the father role is not an exam. It takes devotion and a conscious decision to be an example and should be looked at as a lifetime/ personal career. A literate person spends a lot of time reasoning and evaluating varying situations while THE EDUCATED often become so engrossed in their own objectives and everything else becomes secondary. So let us not lower our standards and give men a reason to want to be a 'MAN' and not just another man. Respect for life and others, superior qualities! Ambition integral.
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Posted 1/12/2010 10:52:10 PM
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You make that sound very simple..But such is not the case. Do I think women should settle for less NO, but we can modify our our conception of what our ideal men should be. What you just laid out to us are excellent yet very important qualities that should be required of the "man" we choose. However that does not even touch the surface of the baggage that these men carry around. There is the case of men in married relationships for working status, there are men who are staying with the relationship for the children, men that cant get a break with his job, men that carry hurt from one relationship to another, or men that are not sure of their sexuality.
Please don't get me wrong I am not making excuses for them just pointing out that there are major issues that make up the men we meet on a daily basis. So we now find ourselves trying to figure out what we can live or live without.
I say DO NOT SETTLE, just make sure that what ever you decide to sacrifice for love that it makes you absolutely happy. Because the truth is there is no perfect relationship.
Blessup
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