 Posted 2/15/2010 1:10:09 PM
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| What keeps 2 people in a relationship together? Is it sex, Emotional attachment, commitment, or trust? Most would say it’s a combination of all those factors. But which is most important to you and why? Maybe its none of previous, so please as you wish- shed some light!
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Posted 2/19/2010 12:00:58 AM
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What keep two people together is yes a combination of some of those listed; sex, communication etc. But I think more importantly consistency and attention are key. Both men and women wants to feel wanted in a relationship; and a little attention can make the difference; in many ways such as a " I miss you" phone call, cards, going out to have dinner, or even just cuddling and watching a good movie. I can tell you that I personally dont think its the "big" things that make a relationship its the small thoughts and the consistency in which they happen..And this goes both ways! A man wants to feel appreciated also.
Blessup
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Posted 2/19/2010 10:56:35 AM
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I, too think it is a combination of all both  four of them. And I agree it is mainly the little things that make a relationship strong. Things like "I love you"....or a little kiss on the cheek just because....Many women would say they want a man who tells the truth, but sometimes honestly we hate what is the truth. As ths sister Aretha said R E S P E C T ....a MAJOR roler player. And a relationship should not be 80 - 20. SHould be balanced.....We meet in the middle......No one should lead the other, we should walk side by side. We should be best of friends, and be comfortable with each other.....It is a great feeling having a lover as a best friend....If the men talk more women would nag less?? I wonder. SHOOT.....me ears tickling me all down inside....like i getting a cold....and me throat too. Sorry....where was I again...Oh Oh and though sex is important , very important, if the individual is a good soul but lack in that area, the good qualities will shine out and the partner should/will understand....But I have not had that problem to date . All in all we should cherish, aim to please, respect, love each other.....
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Posted 2/19/2010 3:21:26 PM
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| Missy..I dont know about the good qualities outshining the sex.. But what I do know is that you are right a relationship cannot be 80-20. I cant stress it enough our men need love too. We are all looking for a place in our life that we are happy with that one person; BUT so how often we compromise what we truely want from a relationship. And this causes the uproar and the unfortunate breakups. Why do you think partners/spouse step out of their relationships and cheat? Is it because they are not getting something that their partner isnt supplying? or is it boredom? or just a case of wanting some new?
Blessup
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Posted 2/20/2010 10:40:57 AM
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It could be all what u said Blessed One....and also it can be GREED!! The thing is women will do everything , and the relationship can be going strong....Yes I agree, men and even women can get bored and want to be adventurous.....and try something new.....But the thing is people, mainly women, go all out to make the relationship work......on a lighter note for e.g. they even switch from their bingo-bags (granny panties) and buy some sexy lingerie....they love and respect the men...they make the relationship "perfect". But what do the men do, they still cheat....The thing is you should see some of the womenfolk they cheat on their wives with, it is insulting to the wives/partners....And like I mentioned before RESPECT!!!!!!!!! I mean even if a man cheats on his partner, at least be discreet, nah!! They are bold and sometimes would be seen in public with these women....and dont care if the wives/partners find out.....Shit Man....what an insult....At least, hide the outside thing....Like I said earlier forum....Men are just wired differently.....They are copy cats to the animal kingdom.....We, women could try all we want.....a cheat is a cheat is a cheat....So my point is how can it work when only one partner is doing all the work to make it work?...And they make excuses like "Oh, there are more women than men, so we have to share.." Sometimes women accept this cheating and continue in their relationships......Me....that is why I am single so long and often, cause I believe you shouldnt take shit....That is for the toilet!!
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