 Posted 2/22/2010 7:32:18 PM
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| I wonder if it is because we are not disciplining the child today thorugh a sound whipping why children are so unruly these days.....I am not talking visiously beating the child to cause bodily harm......just a good *** whupping........Listen to stories of adults and they are proud of the lashes from parents, that kept them in tact. Today you beat a child in the Metropolitan countries, they call 911 and your *** is put in jail....So how do we punish a child.....Do we take away their priviledges (PC, cell phone etc)....Is this enough? They will have another phone anyways....Do we take away their dinners..? They dont care cause they are mad too, and when you are mad you dont eat....so there!! It is like kids these days are immune to the various punishments that exist today......What can parents do?
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Posted 2/23/2010 8:04:30 AM
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Missy, I came to my pc this morning to post a similar piece, that of the role of parents in raising well adjusted children in a society which is hell bent on pulling our children in various directions. I take my parenting responsibilities very seriously and none of the books that I have read have realistically prepared me for the honourable role which I am performing as a parent. I think that consistent discipline is critical to forming character and that discipline can be dispensed using a number of methods. I am thankful that I was flogged by my mother (belt, whip, cup, slap, anything in hand I got) and then I thought that this was wicked.  However, in retrospect the lashes were generally punctuated with her explaining the reasons and the consequences of my actions. So, now I thank my mother for she clearly possessed a wisdom which I was too young to see. Now, my siblings and I reflect with humour.I strongly believe that punishement is simply not enough. We have the responsibility to explain to our children why they are being punishment. Flogging as far as I am concerned is a good method but I draw the line at abuse. Parents also have to know their children and what would trigger reform because the ultimate goal is to change negative beahviours. So if timeouts, withdrawing priviledges etc work then by all means use them. Our ultimate responsibility is in creating honest, hard working individuals who love, value and respect others.
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Posted 2/26/2010 3:48:06 PM
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| We will be deemed history's dumbest generation ever, for so many reasons. One is the way we raise our children. I strongly believe that good buss *** is always due- but its not the answer. I see dangerous and destructive trend where we are now rasinin our children void of responsibility. Our children need to be responsible for his/her environment and his/her life. Simple things like having your daughter wash her underwear as she after she takes a bath- it may not be washed cleaned but she know it has to be done. having your son wash the dishes- let them cut up the vegetables when you are cooking. But as parent we think we are showing our love by making everything easily available to our kids. They miss the process of of what it take to put a meal on the table. They fail to understand the effort it takes transform your energy to a meal, or the cloths on their back. As we say, "could talk till yo piss" its not going to work until we teach our children do. But as parent are we leading by example? Look around at the parents in your neighbourhood. What life are they leading? can a child follow that life and be a better person for it? I really dont see our children failing at all I see us failing them every chance we get.
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Posted 3/3/2010 10:37:48 AM
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| I have seen this topic from both side of the coin..I have seen my parents buss my sisters asss for the shit that she does and it made no serious impact on the decisions that she made..The way my sister viewed it was " well let me enjoy and the worst they can do is beat me" Beating becomes in effective when it is used too much, also beating can be miscontrued as abuse. Responsibility is key, giving our chidren chores and daily tasks to complete is very important and letting them kno the consequences that will follow if they are not done. Please know that a good *** whipping every now and then makes huge impacts. I am now a parent and finding a punishment that fits the crime is often difficult and I just cant resort to beating my son for everything that he does(even though I just want to throw something at him sometimes). So like Yute says we have to know our children and use the punishment that best suits the crime.
Blessup
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