 Posted 5/5/2010 9:10:40 AM
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| The mounting murder rates in the Caribbean, the increase of gangs and gang related activities, heightening drug use among men, the declining performance of male students in regional and internal examinations, the heightening absence of fathers in the homes, increasing enrolment rates at universities among females and the over-population of our prisons by men are mere symptoms that we are losing our Caribbean men. While we celebrate and respect those men who have stepped up and taken their responsibilites seriously, too many of our Caribbean brothers are victims of the system. Mere statistic elimiated by a bullet, just another man liming on the block while another son, another daughter is raised without a father. Caribbean Man - whey yo dey? What strategies can we use to help our men break this vicious cycle?
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Posted 5/5/2010 10:49:27 PM
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You forgot to mention how much of our men are homosexuals. Maybe its being raised by a single mother. What can we do on the whole to save our men? start with the women. Women need to stop making kids just to say they can pop out one. The need to stop settling for any man who fills that void and take time to build real relationships, strong relationships and raise children within that.
Men need to change as well. Stop measuring their success or manliness according to how many women they conquor. Women just need to say no to these sweet talking idiots, have a back bone.
SO
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Posted 5/5/2010 10:52:55 PM
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| As a single mom raising a young black man, it is sad to say my way of life and home is the new "norm" where women are raising men; and that is a fact that is contributing to us losing our men. Yes I know I can raise my son BUT a young man needs a man to relate to, one that he can ask questions and know that the answer is one that is coming from experience and not from a book. So one solution that I have is that the strong positive black men that are out there need to align themselves with nephews, cousins, family friends and be mentors to them; help groom them in becoming real men. I truly believe mentoring young men can help steer them in a new direction.
Blessup
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Posted 5/9/2010 5:00:51 PM
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| Are you saying, men are homosexual because they are raised by a single mom or single mom can't do a good job of raising a young man?
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Posted 5/10/2010 11:57:25 PM
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| The premice of the conversation is about our black young men and the many contributing factors that have caused such an impact on their lives. One of the those facts is that our homes are lack of men raising their sons. As mentioned I am a mom a single mom raising a black man, a young man that needs me but I know he needs a man to help him and mold him and give him a sense of direction that I know I dont have. A boy goes through maturity and changes that I dont know and this is just one instance where he may need a man input more than mine. No, single moms arent raising homosexuals that statement is absurd! Please take a look at the way you were raised; with uncles and family friends who you could go to if dads were not around. SLick that no longer exist, our young men have no one to turn to; hence me mentioning mentoring. A man that have knowledge and experience that needs to be embedded in our youth....we need those mentors. What do you think is another contributing factor to the lives our young men are now living?
Blessup
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Posted 5/12/2010 12:05:34 AM
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By saying Caribbean families I am making the assumption (like everyone else in this discussion) that you mean black families. The issue of single women raising boy/young men without the presence of a father is not new (sad to say). It is cultural phenomenon rooted in slavery. What's new is the absence of men all together (As Blessed-One was alluding to). But of greater detriment to our society is the demised (for a long time now) of the village the use to raise our children and the leaders (male and female) who speared headed the struggle against the "system" Yute talks about.
I take issue in the way we raise our children, not just our boys, but also our girl. We raise our boys like Kings and our girls like servant. What marriage (merger) do we expect to come from this? More so we raise children void of responsibility. Yes the circumstance under which single mother raise their children is more than a challenge - but can we honestly say it is worse than what parent of 10, 20, 30 years ago faced. Mothers struggle through civil rights issues, race issue, serious financial impediments, and abuse from her partner. So yes, women, your struggle is real- no than those of our ancestors. My mother and aunts didn't need a man to "buss my ***" when I step out of line. Yeah- I had to pick myself up quite a few times from that blow that knock me to the floor. Today we call that abuse - I say call it WTF you want - it was part of a strategy that work.
I believe that women are the foundation of any great civilization- I believe women are the leader of any great civilization. Women raise your boys to be men.
But still there are the issues raised by Yute- the issues of crime, violence, drug, rape, etc. I am not sure if these issues can be eliminated in our life time – But I figure the keys to diminishing those issues lay in our ability evolve- to learn to raise our children to be men and women.
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Posted 5/14/2010 12:11:20 AM
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| With such strong rooted views from you, Yute, Slick and Aque I think you guys can start something for young men. Help mentor them maybe trhough a blog, maybe a soccer camp something from Carifuna for the boys. The various qualities that you gentlemen have; you can teach them things that they may not be able to get from home. Think about it guys
Blessup
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Posted 5/14/2010 2:58:15 AM
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BlessedOne, how did you arrive at the assumption that Yute is male?  Not sure how to take that one. Just for the records though am all woman; no male organs.
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Posted 5/14/2010 12:38:36 PM
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Bless I think you missed my point. Its not about mentoring boys- its more so about raising women who will intern raise men. Its about teaching and empowering women so they so more of them raise men and don't accept the BS so many "men" bring to them. I am who I am, significantly so, because I was raised and guided by strong women. After boy/men leave these groups (soccer clubs, mentor ship programs, etc) they go home to women. Women- make sure when we come home, we come good.
So it is heavily an effort to empower women. An empowered gets the best out of her men.
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Posted 5/16/2010 4:52:55 PM
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| Yute i think blessed is under the assumption you could be a she-male, anyway that is beyond the point. A woman don't need a man to raise a young man. If a woman take the responsibility to be a parent, she could do a good or better job of preparing a young man for adulthood better than a father could.
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