 Posted 5/16/2010 10:33:40 PM
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Ladies and Gentlemen (wont try to be specific)
I agree with the view that women don't need men to raise proper boy children, just a strong will, never ending love and an assertive attitude towards doing the right thing... It seems that the question of environmental factors were barely touched as well. Is it a possibility that the schools we attend, area of residents and financial stability also play an integral part in determining the men we eventually become? Where I grew up we had no choice but to learn from the mistakes of our elder pairs, mainly because those said pairs would threaten to beat us up if we took the same path. This may seem a bit rash but it was a harsh reality that kept us in check and insured we become outstanding citizens. And even though our community was classified as a 'ghetto' an our parent/s regarded pairs as 'thugs' and took measures to ensure we not 'hang' with them, these were actually the influential people in our lives... So the point raised where men can be more involved in the lives of their brothers, cousins and nephews may also assist in stabilizing the life of Caribbean men.
On the issue of homosexuality where environment and parenting was raised in relation to the topic of losing Caribbean men. I think that no one can determine the root cause of this apparently massive loss in the Caribbean and worldwide *sigh*... The variables in background are too great to filter this issue and curb its effects. Recently in Trinidad, the Minister of Education in a press briefing announced that they were in the process of evaluating the possibilities of converting several schools to uni sexual schools and the effects it may or may not have on the boys and their performance. This seems to be the governments attempt to help the very situation we speak of in this forum. In recent studies it has been proven that boys succeed at a higher rate in single sex schools and this was the angle the Government would have like to take.
Subsequent to this a video circulated the country where two boys who attend a single sex school were making out in where apparently seems to be their school bathroom. ... One wonders what the government will now do in the fight to train and raise proper young men. These boys were around 13yrs which is an indication the the grapes are going sour from an early age... One of these boys came from a family that consists of both parents and siblings who all play international chess (himself included)... so even with a solid background with 2 parents we see that men can still go astray and make it harder for some women, lol...
I have a question though - Is corporal and capital punishment still practiced in the countries of the Caribbean?
In addition to the factors that arise at home, I firmly believe a main cause of this loss is due to a lack of corporal and capital punishment in our societies and this could possibly be the main cause as well...
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Posted 5/20/2010 1:55:17 AM
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| Sterling, I agree. I think the evidence speaks to the fact that some single women have raised strong, capable, responsible men. In many instances even when the family is intact, the fathers may as well be absent since their role is merely that of bread winner with little or no emphasis on parenting. What continues to be worrying though is the stark differences on how we raise our boys. Girls are held to particular standards but our boys literally run wild. When the consequences are visible and our societies are held ransom we hold our heads and bawl. The socio-economic and cultural conditions specifically related to unemployment, underemployment, the weakening influence of our traditional values, the absoprtion of alien ideals and as you rightly said education are negatively impacting the men. Why not our women? Do we not exist within the same socio-cultural and economic space? The research continues to point to the inability of boys to perform as well as they can in co-educational schools. Futher, the teaching profession is dominated by women and the strategies that are used in the classrooms more often than not do very little to sustain the interest of boys. Still...the cry is where are our men? I often wonder what the quality and number of our male specie would be in a few years. Slick, on another note. I believe strongly in creationism. Therefore, any gender which is genetically engineered, hormone induced or otherwise created is really not a legitimate gender. I am just having a good laugh. LOL
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Posted 5/27/2010 12:05:40 AM
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Yute... you made me laugh I apologize for assuming.. Sterling, Corpal punishment should be re-instated; however I think I may have responded in a way that made everyone think I truly believe that women cannot raise men. When infact I am doing that job as we speak. So let me try this again... I do believe that there are many reasons why we cant find our black men and I do believe with the astronomical percentage of single parent homes may be a contributing factor. Historically our single family homes were the result of parental death; historically the men were always around they took pride in raising a son. I know single parent home is not the main factor but I do believe that there is a correlation.
Blessup
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